Choose your friends wisely

Choose your friends wisely

The management expert Jim Rohn once said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

This is an important concept to understand and one worth paying attention to.

Ideally, you want to surround yourself with a peer group who help you to become better.

This is because as social animals we don’t like to be the odd one out.

So even if we’re a good person to begin with, if the people we associate with most often do bad things, we’ll end up adapting our behaviour to conform.

It’s why you often hear people say, “He was a good kid but he just fell in with the wrong crowd.”

David McClelland, author of The Achieving Society, observed that the major difference between success and failure in life is your choice of a ‘reference group.’

These are the people you hang-out with the most.

If you associate with ambitious, motivated and positive people then you will start to embody those values in the way you think, act and present yourself. As the philosopher Goethe once said: “Tell me with whom you consort and I will tell you who you are.”

With this in mind, here are some questions to ask yourself about your current group:

  1. Are they the ‘right’ type of people? Do they help me in a positive way?

  2. Should I spend more or less time with them?

  3. Who should I be spending more time with?

Reflect on your answers and don’t be afraid to make some changes. Cutting out those that drag you down and asking someone you admire to be your mentor can be a great step in the right direction.

Your future self will be grateful.


There are other ways to level-up in life aside from hanging out with inspiring people. You can also learn from them through our practical online masterclasses.



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