3 Qualities of Resilient People

3 Qualities of Resilient People

What does it mean to be resilient?

Put simply, it’s the ability to recover quickly from the difficulties that life presents.

Why is it so important?

As human beings, we like to feel in control of our lives. The reality is much of our life is dictated by chance. Sometimes good luck comes our way and sometimes it’s the opposite.

The truth is everybody goes through hard times. How you react to them is the important part and the bit that is completely within your control.

There are some people that just seem to glide through life’s tricky challenges and this has everything to do with their resilience.

The good news is that it is a characteristic that can be learned. You do not need to be born with it.

What makes resilient people so indomitable is they possess the following three key characteristics:

1. They accept reality

Our lives are not entirely within our control and the best we can do is adjust our direction when obstacles present themselves. 

When facing something difficult in life it’s important to step back and ask yourself the following question: what is within my control and what is outside of my control? 

You should focus your energy on addressing the former and not exhaust your emotions on the latter. 

2. They have a sense of purpose

To weather any storm it helps to have a sense of purpose. This means feeling that you are part of something worthwhile and larger than yourself. 

If you are only motivated by selfishness and greed you will feel hollow and weak when life throws you a curveball. 

3. They are adaptable

The only thing constant is change. Resilient people have the ability to adapt when circumstances differ. 

They have contingency plans or alternative options. Do your best to broaden your skill set and expand your social network. You never know what the future brings. 

By focusing on these points above you will learn to shift more fluidly from one circumstance to the next. 

If you’re interested in learning more about this topic then you might enjoy the following books:

  1. Resilience: Why things bounce back 

  2. Resilient: 12 Tools for transforming everyday experiences into lasting happiness

  3. Man’s Search for Meaning: The classic tribute to hope from the Holocaust

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